Learning is serious business

The internet is buzzing with discussions about high school dress codes. And someone always argues that learning is serious business. We are preparing our students for jobs. School is a students job and they should dress like it.

But is it? Is learning really serious business? All humans, no matter their learning style or culture and for that matter, all animals as well, learn best through play. It’s how we learn to walk, talk, eat and more, and frankly we do our children a disservice when we forget this. School should be fun. School should involve play.

And preparing students for jobs is a tiny fraction of what school is (or at least what it should be). We are preparing students for life! For being their best selves. And a part of that is discovering their identity. Why not use those choices as a learning opportunity? The reality is that we are judged by how we dress. But should we be? High school class rooms are the perfect place to start that conversation. What assumptions do you jump to when you see a teen dressed in a sexy or revealing manner. Or a teen with boxers showing. Why are you making those assumptions? What assumptions do you think adults might make? Should they be making them? Let’s talk about how the world is and how it should be.

And above all, let’s not sacrifice any child’s education – boys or girls. If you really have to enforce a dress code let’s do it without removing a child from class. Give detention or some other penalty that does not sacrifice a child’s education. If our boys are truly distracted by a girls clothing what are they going to do when they graduate? Or for that matter, when they go to the park or pool after school? Let’s teach both boys and girls how to conduct themselves!

Trust is earned – or is it?

Trust is earned. It’s a well used mantra and I think we accept it, and just take for granted that it’s true. But is it?

If I apply it to my toddler, she will have no space to learn, to fail. Instead I put her meal in front of her and hand her a fork. I trust her to feed herself. Even though she may fail. She may dump her plate on the floor. Spill her milk. Mash her potatoes into her hair. But unless I want to still be feeding her at 12, I know i have to let her try.

We often have a different standard for our employees though. Trust is earned! Prove to me that you’re ready to do the job and then I’ll let you try. We disregard the trust that is implicit in the employment agreement. I hired you to do the job – I already committed to entrusting the job to you. If I don’t let you try, fail, and learn, there was no point in hiring for the position.

It is hard to trust. It is especially hard to entrust our most invested projects to someone new. “You know what? Never mind. I’ve got this. Maybe next time.” But seriously, if we cannot learn this, we prevent our companies from growing beyond what we as individuals can do. We prevent ourselves from growing out of our role and moving up.

It’s hard. It hurts. But it is essential.